Welcome to our Marriage War and Peace blog for February!

February is the perfect month to dive into the intricacies of reigniting passion in your marriage. It's a time to explore the art of deepening intimacy and rediscovering the profound connection that lies at the heart of your relationship. Let's embark on a journey to find your Truth in the name of Love.

Intimacy for couples isn’t just about sex. I used to think that. Now I know that intimacy extends far beyond the bedroom. 

True intimacy is an intricate dance between two souls, where communication, trust, and a shared journey of self-discovery intertwine. It's the art of sharing one's soul, laying bare dreams, fears, and aspirations in the sacred space of togetherness. 

Intimacy, in its purest form, is a symphony of shared laughter, whispered secrets, and a mutual commitment to navigating the complexities of life together.

In this month’s article, we’ll focus on:

• The nightly ritual Shahriar and I do

• 3 fun games you and your husband can play to deepen intimacy

• The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Our Nightly Ritual Under the Winter Sky

This winter, we’ve begun a nightly ritual that we both cherish. We round up our dogs, William and Mary, and go for a walk . The cold winter sky is the perfect backdrop for one of our favorite past times — stargazing. 

Before heading out, we pick a card from Kyle Gray's Gateway of Light Activation Oracle deck and have fun searching the heavens for the star or constellation. We read about it and say the activation prayer included in the guidebook. Afterward, we talk about our hopes and dreams and areas where we'd like support from the other. Here is the Amazon link 🔗 for posterity.

When we get home, we hug our trees — we each have a special one — then come together and give a combined hug to another tree, symbolizing the deep spiritual connection that lies at the heart of our marriage. 

This nightly ritual, which began spontaneously, has now become our favorite way to end our day. Under the winter sky, amidst the stars and shared prayer, we find solace, connection, and our Truth in the name of Love.

February is not just about Valentine's Day; it's about reigniting the flame in your marriage and renewing your connection. 

Shahriar and I have been married for 24 years. Even after that long, we still find ways to deepen our intimacy.

3 Fun Games Couples Can Play to Deepen Intimacy

1. The Love Map Game

Objective: Enhance your knowledge of each other's preferences, dreams, and experiences.

How to Play: Create a "love map" by taking turns asking each other questions about your lives, memories, and future aspirations. Make it a lighthearted and enjoyable conversation, delving into both the significant and silly aspects of your relationship. This game fosters a deeper understanding and connection.

2. Truth or Dare for Couples

Objective: Encourage open communication and playfulness.

How to Play: Adapt the classic Truth or Dare game to suit your relationship. Create a set of questions and dares that range from sweet and romantic to more adventurous. Take turns choosing truth or dare and use this game to explore new facets of each other's personalities while having fun together.

3. Board Game Night

Objective: Strengthen teamwork and communication.

How to Play: Choose a board game that requires collaboration and strategy. Games like Scrabble, Pandemic, or Codenames can be both entertaining and conducive to deepening intimacy. Working together to achieve a common goal in a game setting can translate into improved communication and cooperation in your relationship.

And if you’re looking for a fun way to deepen your intimacy and ignite passion, check out The Adventure Challenge Connection Cards for Couples. It’s a cool relationship game with questions and prompts to inspire out-of-the-box conversations and reignite the flame in your marriage.

Helpful Resource

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

This book is a must-read for couples looking to deepen their intimacy. It explores different ways people express and receive Love. Understanding your partner's love language can be transformative for your relationship.

May much love surround and fill you this month!