Today’s topic: Saboteur #7 Need to be Right (Part 1) 

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In Today’s Blog 

When you and your spouse are fighting, and you don’t know the ‘why’ behind the ‘what’ . . .  check to see which of the 7 relationship saboteurs is triggering you.  

In today’s blog, we’ll look at how the need to be right manifests, what it looks like and implies, and how this relationship saboteur justifies its actions. Finally, we’ll look at what’s being triggered within you. 

Next month, we’ll explore solutions and look at how being triggered can be a transformative moment for yourself and within your marriage as a sacred act. 

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Relationship Saboteur #7 Need to be Right 
 
The need to be right in a relationship refers to the compulsion to win arguments or prove a point, often at the expense of understanding or connection.   

1. How it manifests 
    

• Constantly correcting your spouse, even over minor details 

• Refusing to admit mistakes or wrongdoing 

• Prioritizing being ‘right’ over resolving conflict 

• Arguing until your partner concedes or gives up 

• Dismissing or invalidating your spouse's perspective 
   

2. What it looks like: 
    

• Insisting on having the final word in disagreements 

• Frequently pointing out where your partner is wrong 

• Using facts or technicalities to win an argument 

• Showing frustration or anger when challenged 
   

3. What it implies: 
    

• You can’t possibly be right 

• Your viewpoint is inferior 

• You don’t know enough 
   

4. How it justifies its actions: 
    

• “It’s the truth.” 

• “I know more about this than you do.” 

• “You’re too emotional to see the facts clearly.” 

• “I’m just being objective so you can understand the truth.” 

5. What’s being triggered within you? 

The part triggered is an old emotional injury from the past that’s remained frozen. It’s triggering you now so you can examine the wound and evolve past it into the wise adult you’re meant to be.  

Next month, we’ll explore solutions to this relationship saboteur and look at how triggering can be a transformative moment for yourself and within your marriage as a sacred act. 

All it takes is one person in the relationship to understand what’s going on and turn inward for healing, to transform their relationship from battle-weary to thriving strong.  

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