Turning your battle-weary marriage into a spiritual practice . . .
Message from Veronica
Don’t Throw in the Towel, Yet! could have easily been called . . .
Don’t Throw Your Towel at Your Husband, Yet!
While my husband encouraged me to get help and figure out what was wrong with me, he was adamant about not doing so for himself. And dug his heels in the ground about participating in any kind of therapy together. I wanted to throw my towel at him many times!
Many wives are in the same boat that I was. They know there’s something wrong and are desperately searching for answers. They’re depressed, anxious and do unhealthy things to numb themselves. They’re embarrassed to be in an unhappy marriage and exhausted from pretending otherwise. They frequently think about giving up and throwing in the towel and wonder if their marriage can or even should be saved.
Above all else, they want their husbands to work with them to save their relationship. They want to figure out what went wrong together and strategize a way forward. Together. They don’t want to go to therapy by themselves, don’t want to feel alone in their marriage, and don’t want to throw in the towel. Yet.
What do you do when you love your husband and hate the situation that you are in? When your spouse thinks you have the problem and doesn’t see a ‘we’ in saving your marriage?
You read my book!
Don’t Throw in the Towel, Yet! is launching soon.
This book is written for:
Battle-weary wives who are desperately seeking answers!
Frustrated wives who are on the brink of divorce.
Hopeful wives who are interest in spiritual growth.
If you're feeling battle-weary, frustrated with how things are, but still have a glimmer of hope, then you are exactly who this book is for!
You are my ladies!
What’s between the pages?
Don’t Throw in the Towel, Yet! is divided into three parts
My story
It begins with a disastrous first date with my husband, who shockingly spent our wedding night with someone else!
Because of this, I found myself trapped in a cycle of codependency and neediness that consumed my life.
Fourteen years into the marriage, I hit rock bottom.
On the verge of divorce, down on my knees sobbing and clutching my daughter to my chest, something miraculous happened.
Slowly, I got to my feet, wiped my eyes, squared my shoulders and vowed to 'dame-up' and turn my life and marriage around.
A treasure trove of tools!
The middle section is a treasure trove of practical tools that I used to regain my sanity while I was transforming from a battle-weary wife to a 'damed-up' woman.
These include my signature Stop, Drop, and Roll Technique, a method I teach to everyone I meet — my clients, workshop attendees, and even my daughter!
And the seven relationship 'bad boy' saboteurs, will give you fresh insight into why you and your husband are fighting so much and what you can do about it.
The section begins with a chapter on treating marriage as a spiritual practice and ends with a chapter on gratitude for your journey.
Should you stay or go?
In the last section, you'll evaluate your marriage and decide if it's worth staying and growing for or if it's beyond repair and you need to uncouple with grace and dignity.
You'll read about the impact of divorce on children and the benefits of staying together for their sake. You'll also work through a series of checklists to help you determine whether your marriage can or should be saved, and understand your next steps.
Regardless of your decision, this section is designed to help you get clear about what's best for you and your family and empower you to make an informed decision.
By the end of my book, you'll know what you want, be in control of your life, and know your truth in the name of love.
Read my book for answers. Finish with hope.
Don’t Throw in the Towel,Yet! is launching soon.
My first red flags!
(excerpt from my book)
Shahriar and I had a whirlwind romance. And two months after our first date, I said, “Yes!” He was relieved. I was ecstatic — we couldn't wait to start our life together.
Seven months later, we tied the knot.
During the seven months leading up to our marriage, unlike other couples fraught with tension and overwhelmed with wedding plans, we weren’t. Filled with love and joy, it was one of the sweetest times of our courtship.
However, Shahriar had one request for me:
"Veronica, I’d like to keep our engagement a secret for now?”
“Oh?”
“I know this might sound strange, but I want to make sure my parents are the first to know.”
(Shahriar’s parents were back in Iran then and weren’t expected to return to Jacksonville for six months.)
“Couldn’t you just call them?”
“I’d rather wait until they return and tell them in person,” he said.
When Shahriar’s older brothers got married, he was a child living in Iran with his parents. Both had come to the US to study at university. They met their wives here and married.
“Since my parents couldn’t travel outside of Iran due to the war, my brothers had to tell them about their engagements over the phone,” he explained.
“My mother was so heartbroken she wouldn’t be a part of their special day that I’d hear her cry herself to sleep for months.”
I completely understood Shahriar’s reasons and felt proud to be with a man who wanted to honor his parents, so I didn’t tell my parents, either.
Look at all those red flags I ignored!
Sheesh.
5 Reasons you're gonna love this book!
It's inspirational
My journey from the brink of divorce to reclaiming my marriage offers a genuine and relatable narrative that will inspire you.
All the transformational tools
The 11 tools, including my Stop, Drop, and Roll Technique, provide practical, step-by-step methods that have helped me, and others restore peace and sanity in their relationships.
Focus is on marriage as a spiritual practice
This book helps wives shift their focus from blame to self-love by treating marriage as a spiritual practice and focusing on personal growth.
Clear, practical advice
Whether deciding to stay or leave, this book offers clear, practical advice and checklists, helping wives make informed, empowered choices about their future.
Full of hope
For those feeling hopeless, my story and strategies show that marriages can be turned around, offering hope, even in the darkest moments.
Whenever you need support, guidance, or inspiration, Don't Throw in the Towel, Yet! will cheer you on.
This will be a book you'll keep by your side and read more than once as you journey through the challenges of marriage.
One of my favorite stories is hearing how readers let the book fall open naturally, trusting that the words they need most will find them.
Wouldn’t you love to gain a clear vision for the future of your marriage?
If so, this book won’t disappoint!
Don’t Throw in the Towel, Yet! is launching soon.
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