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Welcome back to the Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! blog, your go-to resource for navigating the ups and downs of marriage and life with grace and resilience.
Today, we're addressing a topic many of us struggle with — self-doubt.
But before we dive into today's topic, I have an exciting announcement to share.
Mark your calendars for September 13-15 because we're hosting the Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! Turnaround weekend — an event specially designed for battle-weary wives.
During this transformative weekend, we'll uncover the 7 relationship saboteurs wreaking havoc in marriages and delve deeper into the Stop, Drop, and Roll Technique.
(This method saved my marriage and can transform yours, too.)
To learn more about this exciting event, watch the video linked here.
When things heat up — and they inevitably will — you'll want to know how to stop, drop, and roll, baby!
And for those new to our Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! mini-series, take a moment to read about its origins here. It's a story of transformation and resilience that has saved countless marriages.
Now, let’s dive into today’s topic.
Stop fueling self-doubt.
Self-doubt can creep in at the most unexpected times, making you question your abilities and worth. The first step in overcoming self-doubt is to recognize when these feelings arise and stop fueling them with negative self-talk, comparisons to others, or what you think you lack.
Drop the need for validation.
Many of us seek outside validation from others to feel worthy and competent.
Release this need for external validation and start trusting in your own abilities and worth. Understand that your value is not determined by others' opinions but by your belief in yourself.
Embrace your unique qualities and trust that you are enough just as you are.
Roll into self-confidence.
Now that you’ve stopped fueling self-doubt and dropped the need for validation, it’s time to roll into self-confidence.
Cultivate self-assurance by focusing on your strengths and celebrating your successes, no matter how small they may seem.
Say positive affirmations to reinforce your self-worth and abilities. Engage in creative activities such as painting, writing, or dancing to channel your emotions constructively and boost your self-esteem.
Learning to Stop, Drop, and Roll with Your Self-Doubt is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Recognizing when self-doubt arises, releasing the need for external validation, and focusing on your strengths can cultivate a deeper sense of self-confidence and authenticity.
So, take a deep breath, embrace your true self, and roll forward with courage and grace.
Until next time, remember that you are more than enough just as you are.
All it takes is one person in the relationship to stop, drop, and roll to smother the flames. Then, when it’s time, you’ll return to the conversation feeling inner-centered, emotionally balanced, and ready to invite conversation.
In the meantime, if the flames are getting hot and you'd like help putting them out, wives, I’m here for you. Or, if you’d like help as a couple, click here.
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