Today’s topic: Getting the New Year Off to a Positive Start with the 'Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! Technique

INTRODUCTION

Happy New Year!

I’m always excited about new beginnings and eager for positive starts. If you are, too, you’ll enjoy getting this year off to a fabulous start with this handy tool for dealing with arguments.

If you like the idea of 2024 being the year you and your husband stop fighting and start fostering a more harmonious relationship, then watch the video and learn about this year’s first Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! Wives Workshop that’s coming up in February . The 'Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby' Couples Workshop will be later in the year, so please stay tuned.

And just in case you’re new to the 'Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby!' technique mini-series read about how it all began here — it saved my marriage!  

How to 'Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby!' with Your Husband

1. Stop fueling the flames.
   
   Start the new year off right by embracing this truth in the name of love: It doesn’t matter who or what started the argument. What matters is that you stop fueling the flames.
   
   Stop contributing to the fighting and escalating it.  Stop trying to ‘make’ your husband understand your point of view. Stop saying, “yes, but after everything he says.”
   
   Instead, stop feeding the fire by saying with warmth in your voice and love in your heart:
   
   “I see we’re butting heads, and I don’t want to do that with you. Let’s take a break and come back in a little while to talk things over.”
   
   Then, physically walk away from the conversation.* 
   

2. Drop all expectations.
   
   To avoid further hurt, drop any need for your husband to agree with what you’re saying, apologize for what he’s done, or fix your hurt feelings.
   
   Use your time away to reflect on what triggered you (not who). And the hurt piece within you that needs your attention.
   

3. Roll into self-care and love mode.
   
   Deprive the argument of oxygen by engaging in self-nurturing activities.
   
   Go for a walk, pull an Angel card for clarity, pour your feelings out in your journal, or do deep breathing exercises. Anything that restores your feeling of centeredness and inner calm is what you’ll roll into.
   

* Don't push for reconciliation if you or your husband isn’t ready to talk. Instead, communicate the need for more time by saying:

“I’m still upset and need some more time to calm down. Let’s talk about this tomorrow at a specific time.”

All it takes is one person in the relationship to 'Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby!' to smother the flames. Then, when it’s time, you’ll return to the conversation feeling inner-centered, emotionally balanced, and ready to invite conversation.

I'm living proof this can be done and I believe in you!