Welcome to our Marriage War and Peace blog for June!

In April’s blog, we discussed vibrant moneyships and how to create one. This month, we’ll talk about writing a new moneyship story for yourself — one your children will be proud to inherit.

Here is the Link to April's Blog.

If you’re anything like me, you have a love-hate relationship with money. You love having it and the things you can do with it, and you’re fretful about not having enough.

It’s the fretful part that works against the financial abundance that’s out there, waiting to manifest in your life.

Continuing to speak or think about a money shortage contradicts your desire for abundance. You can’t focus on what is unwanted and receive what is wanted.

In this month’s article, we’ll focus on:

• Our riches-to-rags inheritance.

• What a shaky moneyship looks like — ain’t pretty.

• How to write a new moneyship story.

Riches to Rags

Shahriar and I come from families that once had and then lost enormous amounts of money.

My dad was born in Mexico and grew up in a wealthy household. He and his four siblings each had a nanny, and their stately home sat on hundreds of acres.

When his father died suddenly in a car crash, his mother moved her children to the United States to be near her brothers.

She came to the US with the money she’d inherited, yet lost it all when her brothers talked her into investing it into their business, which failed. Penniless, she put her children into a Catholic orphanage. And just like that, everyone went from riches to rags.

Shahriar was born in Iran and came from generational money. When the Iranian Revolution broke out in 1978, his family was one of the wealthiest in the area. Then the revolutionary government appropriated everyone’s property and money; and overnight, they lost everything.

Our Shaky Moneyship

For most of our marriage, Shahriar has been the sole financial provider for our family. Yet, because of what happened to our parents and grandparents, he was fretful about providing enough money for us, and I worried about us having enough.

Shahriar provided well for us; however, we had inherited our moneyship story and were fearful that some outside entity would take it away. Would we lose it through an insurance audit? Or an IRS audit? Perhaps Shahriar (a physician) would be sued by a disgruntled patient.

Although we never talked about any of this — big mistake — the energy of worry and fear dominated our moneyship.

On top of that, we bought that overpriced piece of commercial property in 2008 [ APRIL’S BLOG: “What’s a Moneyship?”] without much discussion — another big mistake — which added anxiety to our already shaky moneyship.

We needed a new story.

New Story

One day, I attended a workshop with Tosha Silver, author of Outrageous Openness and It’s Not Your Money. She asked the group:

Are you and your spouse clinging to financial control out of fear and scarcity? Or do you trust divine guidance to head you to financial stability and abundance?

(Readers, this was a pivotal question for us.) 

Although Shahriar and I inherited our riches-to-rags experience, we wanted our daughter to inherit a completely different story. 

So, we wrote a new moneyship story!

How to Write a New Moneyship Story

"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." — Carl Jung

Step #1: Talk with your spouse about the generational story each of you inherited.

Step #2: Discuss what you’d like to keep and discard from that story.

Step #3: If your children are old enough, get their input about what kind of moneyship they’d like to inherit. Or the moneyship you’d like to pass on to them if they’re too young.

Step 4: Brainstorm ways you can step into your new moneyship story.

Step 5: Write down three things you’re committed to doing this month. Then revisit your moneyship story each month to evaluate how things are going and renew your direction.

Resource

Divine Abundance Oracle Cards

Here are the cards Shahriar and I used to keep our new moneyship story on track.

Resource Link: https://www.amazon.com/Divine-Abundance-Oracle-Cards-52-Card/dp/1401960170

Tosha Silva

Tosha helps people access the Divine in deep, alive, and authentic ways. If you’d like to attend her Radical Gratitude event or one of her classes, go here for more information. 

https://toshasilver.com/

Have fun writing your new moneyship story!