Welcome to our Marriage War and Peace blog for May!

May is a month full of blooming flowers, warmer weather, and a spirit of celebration. While Mother’s Day often takes the spotlight, this season is also the perfect time to honor you as a wife—the journey you’ve walked, the strength you’ve shown, and the growth you continue to experience. Whether your marriage has been filled with joy, challenge, or both, your story deserves to be celebrated.

As wives, we often focus on giving—our time, energy, and care. But how often do we pause to appreciate ourselves? To say, "Look how far I've come"? Celebrating yourself isn’t indulgent; it’s necessary. It replenishes your spirit, builds self-worth, and deepens the connection you have with your own heart.

This May, give yourself the gift of acknowledgment and appreciation. Let it be a month where you say yes to honoring you.

In this month’s article, we’ll focus on:

· A Season of Honoring Myself

· 7 ways to celebrate yourself as a wife

· I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl

A Season of Honoring Myself

If there was ever a time when I needed to honor myself as a wife, it was during the years I didn’t even know how. Back then, I was running on empty—overgiving, over-functioning, and trying to prove my worth through self-sacrifice. I anticipated my husband’s every need while abandoning my own. When the busyness couldn’t numb the ache, I turned to food, distraction, and anything that kept me from facing the truth: I had lost touch with the woman inside the role.

But little by little, things began to shift. My daughter became both my mirror and my motivation. Every time I practiced my Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby!® technique, I woke up a bit more. I began to understand that being a good wife didn’t mean losing myself. I could stay present, love deeply, and still choose me.

That’s when I started asking, “What’s the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?” Sometimes the answer was simple—a nap, a glass of water, a moment with my feet up. Other times, it meant replacing self-criticism with compassion and celebrating the love and devotion I give so freely. The most powerful shift came through stillness: pausing throughout my day to sit quietly, breathe, and come home to myself.

This May, as nature blooms outside my window, I’m reminded that honoring myself doesn’t require a grand moment. It’s a gentle, daily ritual of self-respect, presence, and grace.

7 Ways to Celebrate Yourself as a Wife

Celebrating yourself starts with intention and a willingness to turn your attention inward. These small but meaningful activities are designed to help you recognize your worth, honor your growth, and reconnect with the powerful woman you are.

1. Create a Personal Celebration Ritual Designate a day this month to celebrate yourself. Light a candle, journal about your growth, listen to your favorite empowering music, or take yourself on a solo date. Make this ritual something that reflects you and honors the journey you’ve traveled.

2. Write a Love Letter to Yourself Put pen to paper and express gratitude for who you are. Acknowledge your strength, your perseverance, your kindness. Let it be a letter that lifts you up on the days you forget how far you’ve come.

3. Revisit Your Milestones Look back at photos, old journal entries, or accomplishments. Remember the battles you’ve faced—and survived. Take a moment to feel proud of the wife, woman, and person you are today.

4. Try a Gratitude Practice Focused on You For one week, write down three things each day that you’re grateful for about yourself. This simple shift helps reframe your self-perception and nurtures a sense of self-compassion.

5. Treat Yourself Without Guilt Buy the flowers. Take the nap. Enjoy the dessert. Do the thing you keep putting off because it feels "too much." You are worthy of delight, joy, and pleasure—simply because you exist.

6. Share Your Story Talk to a trusted friend, write a blog post, or start a creative project that reflects your journey. Honoring your story helps you process your growth and inspires others to celebrate their own.

7. Say Thank You to Yourself

At the end of each day this month, take a moment to thank yourself. For showing up. For staying in the hard conversations. For loving, giving, and still finding space to grow. Let this be a quiet, powerful reminder that you matter.

These practices are just the beginning. To deepen your journey of self-celebration, consider diving into a book that nurtures your sense of identity and inner strength.

Helpful Resources

Consider reading I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl by Alexis Jones. This empowering book invites women to step into their truth, own their worth, and celebrate their identity. It offers inspiration and personal stories that can help you reconnect with the woman inside the wife who deserves to be seen, heard, and celebrated.

Share Your Insights Celebrating yourself doesn’t require a grand gesture. Sometimes the most powerful affirmations come from the smallest acts of acknowledgment. As a battle-weary wife, you carry so much—responsibility, love, and quiet strength. May this month be a reminder that your story is sacred, your resilience is radiant, and your journey is worthy of celebration.

What are you doing to celebrate yourself this month? Share your thoughts in the comments and let’s inspire each other to honor the women we are becoming.